Motherhood is the biggest blessing
We all love our babies more than anything in the world. Motherhood is beautiful. But it isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. I’m gonna give you the real and raw truth that a lot of mothers don’t really talk about. And I don’t say these things to be negative. But I do think its important to talk about this side of motherhood so momma’s don’t feel alone and feel ashamed for having these feelings.
Motherhood is lonely
So that kinda sounds weird after brining another human into the world, right? There are sooo many changes that happen after becoming a mother. You’re going through so many emotions. No one can really understand how you’re feeling. You’re up all hours of the night when every one else is sleeping. You can’t make that lunch with your girlfriend’s. You’re missing out on time with your family because you left the room to breastfeed your baby.
Motherhood can make you miss your pre-baby life
Maybe you used to love going out with your friends. Or maybe you loved being able to just pick up and leave without grabbing 100 things before walking out the door. Does any one still go to the bathroom alone anymore? You don’t once you have baby.
Motherhood can cause resentment
Like when your bleeding, dripping breastmilk and crying all at the same time while your husband doesn’t have to experience any of this. Or when your husband runs to the store or goes to work. Do you resent your girlfriend because she can go grab lunch and go shopping with no cares in the world?
Motherhood causes anxiety
I literally have anxiety about everything when it comes to my son. Is my level of anxiety healthy? Nope, definitely not. Motherhood can cause you to worry about so many things that you never even thought of before becoming a mother.
Does any of this sound familiar? You aren’t alone momma. But let’s talk about some positives.
Motherhood is lonely
Having a small human who is half of you and half the person you love is the best thing! Yes motherhood can be lonely but it can also make you so full of life. You’ll always have a companion and someone who will always love you! When you’re up at 3 am or have to leave the room to nurse, you’re getting to bond with your baby.
Motherhood can make you miss your pre-baby life
Do I miss my pre-baby life? Sometimes. I do miss being able to quickly hop in the car or grab dinner with my husband at a restaurant spur of the moment. But I wouldn’t trade this life for anything else in the world. My son gives me a purpose in life. It’s ok to miss some things from your pre-baby life. It doesn’t make you any less of a mother and you should never feel ashamed of that!
Motherhood can cause resentment
I think any mom I’ve ever talked with you has mentioned this. It’s a normal reaction. You’re life literally just did a 360. It’s normal to feel resentment because you can’t do some of the things you used to. This is only a season in life. Sometimes you may resent your husband because he can’t breastfeed the baby with his useless nips. But you’ll fall in love with him all over again when you watch him love and care for your child. You might resent your girlfriend for living her life. But you’ll value your time together more now that you have someone else occupying all your time.
Motherhood causes anxiety
Motherhood can be so overwhelming at times and can cause some anxiety. But you know what else motherhood does? It makes you love another human being more then you could ever imagine. It makes your heart and your home full. It makes you smile and laugh. Listening to your baby giggle or say their first words will literally make your heart explode.
Motherhood is hard…..
But it’s an amazing journey. Just remember when you’re in a rut or feeling overwhelmed, it’s just a season and it will pass. It’s ok to not always feel happy being a mom 24/7. It’s important to be raw and transparent. No mother is perfect!
